5 things going through a divorce has taught me about life and business (so far)

Well.

Well.

Well.

I said it.

I kinda said it before- but in  an incognito way. LOL sorry-ish.

Now, I’m really saying it. Out loud. In writing. AHH!

I’ve made mistakes, I’ve had regrets, and I wish I could do some things over, but I can’t. So, here are five things going through a divorce has taught me about life and business (so far)…

ONE - Grief isn’t just for the dead.

The death of a marriage feels eerily similar to the death of a person. The grief of losing someone you love is, unfortunately, very similar to the death of a relationship, a dream, and a future.

The life I thought I would have? It’s not the one I’ll be living in anymore.

Maybe you’ve lost a loved one too soon. Maybe you’ve experienced the devastation of divorce. Maybe your business failed, and it felt like a part of you died with it. If so-yeah, I feel for you and I see you.

TWO - Don’t let your adversity go unwasted.

This concept came from a sermon at my church, and it resonated with me deeply. That no matter how terrible, difficult, or painful an experience you’ve endured, your pain can have purpose. When you find the lesson in your struggle, you can turn it into a pivot change in your life, inspiration for your future, or help someone else feel less alone, less broken, and hopeful again.

Whatever hell you’ve walked through (or are walking through in this moment) - reframe it. Learn from it. Let it be the thing that fuels you to create, connect, or comfort. Make your pain (eventually) a lighthouse in the dark for someone else.

THREE  - Life isn’t always hard… and it’s not always good, either.

There are seasons  of life that are so so heartbreakingly sweet… and also so damn heartbreakingly shitty.

If you’re in a storm, know it will eventually pass- even when it doesn’t feel like it.

And if you’re in the best chapter yet? Savor the hell out of it. It also won’t last forever, and that’s what makes it pretty special and beautiful.

FOUR - You will never regret being kind.

You might regret yelling. You might regret gossiping (or maybe only when you get caught). And, you’ll probably regret snapping back at someone.

But, you will never regret being kind, holding your tongue, letting your actions speak louder than your words. Even when someone might not even deserve it. 

It might be harder to be kind, but it’s even harder to regret being kind.

FIVE - I’m capable of so much more. 

I started this business almost a year ago while my marriage was actively falling apart. I was spending hours in therapy, couples therapy, and self-help books… and still, somehow, I built this thing.

I didn’t have energy. I didn’t have money. But I knew that I had to create something that was mine, again.

This business was my way of proving I could support myself again. That I could start fresh. That I could lead in a way no one else was.

And now that I’m no longer pouring my energy into legal crap… I absolutely cannot wait to see what I’ll be capable of now.

If you’re in a sh*t season of life or walking through grief, hear me: It will get better.

Maybe not today. Maybe not tomorrow. But eventually.

I’m someone who doubted it ever would.

But just when I was about to give up… I somehow hung on.

And that’s all you need to do sometimes. You don’t need to change the world. You don’t need to move mountains. You just need to keep hanging on.

One day, you’ll look back and tell your story.

And it’s gonna be pretty freakin’ incredible.